bowl of quandaries, table 2
February 28, 2007Without knowing any of the particulars, would you advise someone who is on the verge of making considering maybe possibly thinking about a life changing decision to
a) continue down the path they’re on – where their life is relatively mapped out, they’re secure but allowing enough room for spontaneity, close to loved ones and surrounded by rich personal history, or
b) take a new path they’ve never considered until right this minute – where things would be new and scary but adventurous, giving up both the familial and financial security they’ve treasured to branch out and experience the world a little more?
In other news, I discovered the 90s Top 40 station on iTunes. And yes, I flat out jammed to Love of a Lifetime and Can’t Touch This. Wait until they bust open the Technotronic. Watch out!
I can’t comment on your 90s music just yet. It’s still only 1984 today as I listen to Frankie Goes To Hollywood telling me to “Relax.”
As for the other stuff, I don’t dare sway you one way or another without more info. (But I bet you’d get some interesting writing material out of the latter of the two options.
Tell more…
I’d have to say (a), unless I was looking for a train wreck…
Of course, knowing the particulars could make me opt for (b). Not for myself, of course; I’m far too set in my ways.
Hmmm…tagged under “musica.” If you’re thinking of going on the road as a back-up dancer for Prince, I’ll tell you what I’ve always told RUABelle:
You do what makes you happy. If and when they kick you off of the bus in whatever small town you happen to be rolling through at the time, call me and I will be there to pick you up. No questions asked.
Depends on how good you are at making spontaneous decisions. Now is the time to make a bold decision. You have enough time to bounce back from bankruptcy. You don’t have kids to provide for yet (unless of course that is [b]).
Now is a good time to eliminate future what-ifs.
The main reason I am wary of commenting on this is that just last night I was thinking why the hell am I 40 years old and have spent my life working in jobs and a field that have been fine, but I’m not passionate about in the last, and why didn’t I go into something that I loved.
But maybe that’s why I should comment.
Jaxn has a point about the not having kids yet, and I’ll add (and forgive me for taking the “elder speaks” route here) that you are still young enough to do something like that. I SHOULD have made a big move – both careerwise and physically – round about age 27-30 when I much more easily could have done so. Instead I have been suffering some amount of consequences and regret ever since.
So I don’t REALLY want to sway you in any direction, but on the other hand, you have kind of hit on something that is somewhat my own personal hell, so take what you need from what I just said. And whatever you do decide, I of course wish you only the best and will be pulling for you.
“in the last” = “in the least”. Sheesh.
Seeing that we’re only a year apart and I just took a possible “b” plunge in the last year or so, I say go for it. I have learned so much in so many ways, and while leaving the familial behind, it has all made me a stronger, bolder person. A better person.
There are ups and downs with every road that we take in our lives, but why not be a little adventurous…because no matter where we are in our lives…we always catch each other in the end.
Oh…and the deep roots NEVER go away. They become even more special and sacred. Anything that does go away isn’t worth it anyway.
Just sayin’.
As Kurt Vonnegut once said..’strange travel plans are dancing lessons from God’. I have no idea if that applies here, but I thought I’d throw that in.
Pretend you have a gun on your head and that you have to make a choice in 3 seconds…go with whatever decide to do at that moment.
On the other hand…i can’t dance, but when I hear Technotronic…oh baby..i’ve gotta move it
The “safe” route is an illusion. Tell God your plans; give Him a good chuckle. There is no such thing as a mapped-out life. Like the commercial says, “Life comes at you fast”. Like John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you’re making other plans”.
What I’m trying to say is, option “a” is just as uncertain as option “b”. My advice, live your life.
I’m in complete agreement with Slarti.
If you want to shave your head and get a new tattoo, I say GO FOR IT, BABY!
I would always hope someone encourages me to do B) if it’s within reason. I’m sure all familial and financial comfort will be completely lost…
however, personally, a) but only if things are going WELL and nothing actually NEEDS to be changed.
PUUUMP up the jam
B, B, B. Keep in mind of course, I have no idea what you’re actually talking about, and I’m a person who LOVES change. I realize that makes me weird.